I know that’s not a pleasant thought but take it as a metaphor instead of a scene from Kill Bill. If I were to cut you in half and look inside would I find that the way you appear on the outside and the way you are on the inside are consistent?
Congruence is all about being in agreement, harmony or conformity.
Specifically, that the way you look and behave externally, as perceived by others, is consistent with the feelings you have internally. And, then consistent with the way that you would hope others around you feel as part of your current interaction.
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